When I was in high school, there was this couple who had been going strong for nearly the entire years of our secondary education. We thought they would never be torn apart. Of course, we were wrong. This couple, as we later discovered, and as a major surprise for practically everyone, have taken their own separate paths (walang forever). One of the reasons behind this, as she herself said, was because the guy never – wait for it – liked her Facebook profile picture. Yep, I know.
Facebook which is one of the most profitable social media sites in the internet has over 1.5 billion active users per week (Facebook). On average, if you have 1000 friends in Facebook, 490 of them are in the age group of 16-18, that age group spends 4 hours per day on the said website (Thinkhouse). This number dominates the entirely of the Facebook population.
Indeed, Facebook, as all other social media sites, has enabled faster inter-personal communication among the youth as never before. However, this revolution has also force youth to undergo a significant change: concurrently, social media sites, specifically Facebook, conceivably showed to be detrimental to the inter-personal relationship of the youth in the contemporary culture.
The Dual Worlds
Because of Facebook, the term ‘Facebook friend’ has also become proliferated. Back in the days, hearing the word ‘friend’ would only ring a certain definition. But today, there has been a major division between the contemporary usage of the word and its traditional meaning. Facebook lets us to be ‘friend’ with people we barely know; feasibly lessening the time we usually took to talk to our actual friends. This has engendered the dual usage of the word ‘friend’: real friends and Facebook friends.
This alteration is not also solely seized on how we deal with other people, it has also affected our very self. Perhaps we have all been familiar of this contronym: real you and Facebook you. In Facebook, we could be anyone and everyone. This can also affect how we deal with other people. These days, we may never know: a quiet little man can be a tiger on a loose in the digital space of Facebook.
The Unspoken Rule
In Facebook, there has also been, theoretically, a silent war going on between users. Here’s how it goes: the one with the most likes get to be the most beautiful one above all. We don’t really know who started this war, or when it is going to end, but the thing that we are certain at the moment is that likes have been upheld as sacrosanct. Every once in a while, random chat boxes would pop out of our screen – and no, it is not a particularly important, confidential, personal, or just anywhere near relevant topic. It just happened to be some desperate someone asking us to like their Facebook profile picture which is for their “insert random reason here| ex: project in Mapeh”, they would say.
Perhaps the most alarming state by which Facebook is being used has been as a platform for cyber-bullying. A study of 2012 has showed that at least 800,000 minors have been cyber-bullied in Facebook. A quarter of this number has even showed to have doubled the chance of committing suicide.
Despite countless campaigns against the said concern, this amount has been shown to be still growing in numbers (NoBullying). Among the worst cases by which – Amanda Todd, Rebecca Sedwick, Rehtaeh Parsons – to name a few, had just happened in the last three years. This leads us to the question: when will this stop? How many more lives has to perish for our own egotistic ambition?
Indeed, the development that has been brought by Facebook and other social media sites in communication has been remarkable. But if these developments would do us more harm than good, perhaps it would be better to put a stop on these all. Or perhaps if it is just inevitable for us to effusively immerse ourselves into this digital space, most certainly it would be the best if first we would all be in solidarity: that we are no higher than anyone around us, that we all must have substantial respect for one another.
Question: Does social media weakens relationship among the youth in the contemporary culture?
Of Likes and Hate Speech
Thesis: Social media, specifically Facebook, detriments the inter-personal relationships among the youth in the contemporary culture.
1.Introduction to Facebook.
1.Amount of the youth in Facebook
2. Average amount of time spent by the youth in
the social media.
2. The Dual World
1. Real friends vs. Facebook friends.
2. Real you vs. Facebook you.
3. The Unspoken Rule
1. The Sacrosanct likes.
2. The dependence in likes.
1. Amount of bullied youth in Facebook.
2. Regression in cyber-bullying.